Tuesday, January 22, 2013
How to Deal With Bad Neighbors
We've all had to deal with annoying, inconsiderate, or rude neighbors. It's never an ideal situation, and one that can often be difficult and uncomfortable to deal with. So, what can you do? It's a tricky situation, because it's natural to seek out revenge or pay-back, but if you act as such then you might find yourself as rude as the neighbors you're upset with. Instead, we suggest the generous employment of maturity, which isn't always the easiest thing to do. Here are a few tips to consider when dealing with less-than-ideal neighbors, we hope they help you maintain both maturity and sanity.
Sure, it sounds simple, but maintaining an open line of communication is something that's difficult to do in almost any situation. If you're neighbors are extremely rude, then simply telling them you're upset with any behavior may be ineffective, and maybe you lack the gumption required to confront someone head-on. That's ok, because there ware ways to communicate without being face to face.
Consider leaving a polite note in their mailbox. Make sure to avoid the pitfalls of sarcasm or anger, instead try to plainly and clearly explain what it is that you have a problem with.
Talk to Other Neighbors
If confronting the annoying neighbor directly doesn't work, try speaking the other neighbors who might be affected as well. It may be advantageous for several people to discuss displeasure with the annoying neighbor, by way of building a case. Even the most inconsiderate of neighbors can be made to see the light if a group of their peers come to them with a concern.
This can be uncomfortable. It will require a bit more grace, because the last thing you want to do is make the annoying neighbor feel like they've been ganged up on. Remember, a key to remaining mature is remaining reasonable.
Inform the Authorities
This should be a last resort, and by no means the first reaction to an offensive neighbor. However, if you've made several attempts to communicate your frustrations the the issues have persisted, it may be time to involve the authorities. Keep in mind, not every annoying neighbor is breaking the law, so be careful when calling the police. If there is a noise complaint, you may have a legitimate claim, but if your neighbor is doing something a little more "legal," then calling the cops could be a setback.
If you live in a neighborhood, see if there is a neighborhood committee that you can file an official complaint with, or if you live in an apartment or complex, try and speak with the land lord or property manager.
Of course, you can't control other people. There is every likely hood that your neighbor will react in a completely unreasonable way. The best thing you can do is remember that you are only accountable for your actions. Think about what control you have in the situation, and do your best to exercise it in a way that alleviates the problem. And don't forget, the absolute best thing you can do is simple: be a good neighbor.